How do you deal with people around you not being supportive of your growth and your big dreams?
Well, that’s exactly what we’re diving into in today’s episode; unsupportive spouses, protective parents, and ball-busting besties. It seems every online entrepreneur that I’ve spoken with has some story of people in their circle, not getting it. And when I say it, I mean the drive for something more to reach for growth and bigger dreams for themselves through self-development and entrepreneurship.
Let’s dive in.
- Listen in to hear my story of unsupportive people in my life.
- Discover how I overcame it.
- Learn my tips for how you can do the same.
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Unsupportive spouses, protective parents, ball-busting besties- it seems every online entrepreneur I’ve spoken with has some story of people in their circle not getting it. And when I say it I mean the drive for something more, to reach for growth and bigger dreams for themselves through self-development and entrepreneurship. But how do you deal when the people around you aren’t supportive of your growth and big dreams? That is exactly what we are diving into in today’s episode.
- My story of starting my business, wanting to invest in a coach, & my family’s disappointing reaction
- My criticism & teasing for being a Jonas Brothers fan from the people who are supposed to love me most. (I actually tell some really hard stories that are directly from my forthcoming book, Fangirl.)
You going first and stepping out of the norm, change the dynamic and make others feel a certain way about what they are or more often not NOT doing. They wonder if you can change who you are if you’ll outgrow them ( it happens). They take personally offense by your actions because if you start acting differently does it mean that you don’t approve of their choices to stay where they are.
Many times it’s disguised as caution or deterrence because they don’t want to see you get hurt, especially as parents or loved ones. Sometimes is less well-veiled and it’s clearly teasing, goading, or downright bullying.
Here are three things you can do:
- Understand that their reaction is about them and NOT about you.
- Remind yourself why you are drawn to this life in the first place. My own reminder for myself is that I truly believe I was meant to live a more than mediocre life. And that I am responsible for making that my reality.
- Finally, rather than trying to change the people around you, seek out those who will be supportive of your endeavors.
I always like to end each episode with an action step that you can take right now to help you move forward and begin to implement immediately. Here is your action step for this episode: Let’s go deep here. Grab your journal and answer this question: What would their support mean to you? If they all of sudden supported you on everything you did, what would that allow you to do? Then take that information to seek out others that can help you achieve those things.